Sylvia Holtslag is a certified Tools Coach and creator of The State Shift Method — a three-step approach (STATE, SHIFT, STEP) that helps high achievers break through self-sabotaging patterns like workaholism, perfectionism and imposter syndrome. As the only European coach listed on thetoolsbook.com, she has guided over 10,000 people using Phil Stutz’s Tools.
✗ You’re too hard on yourself
“Nothing is ever good enough. Other people? I accept them. Myself? Never.”
✗ Perfectionism keeps you stuck
“If it’s not perfect, I won’t do it. Because failing proves I’m not good enough.”
✗ You keep losing your motivation
“First full of energy. Then it fades. And then I’m ashamed I couldn’t stick with it again.”
✗ Afraid of what others think
“What if they see me doubting? What if they discover I don’t have it under control?”
✗ You can’t feel emotions or feel too much
“I push them down until I explode. Or I get completely overwhelmed.”
✗ You doubt your own judgment
“Am I doing this right? What would others do? I don’t trust myself.”
Tired of constantly tearing yourself down That voice in your head won’t stop. Constant self-criticism. “Why are you doing this? Why can’t you get this right? What’s wrong with you?”
Stuck in perfectionism It’s never good enough. Because perfectionism isn’t striving for excellence—it’s fear. Fear of failure. Fear of rejection. So you do it perfectly. Or not at all. And meanwhile? You’re exhausted.
Frustrated that your motivation keeps fading You start full of energy. “I’m going to stick with this!” The first few days go well. But then… it fades. And then comes the shame. “See? I’m not strong enough.”
Afraid they’ll see through you Because if they really see who you are… if they discover you’re doubting… that you don’t have it all under control… then they’ll know for sure: there’s something wrong with you.
Struggling with your emotions You’re allowed to feel them, but not for too long. Because you have to function. So you push them down. Until you explode. Or until you’re overwhelmed. And then you tear yourself down again: “Why can’t I handle this?”
Unsure of yourself You doubt your own judgment. “Am I doing this right?” You have no frame of reference. No foundation. You had to figure it out yourself. And now? Now you google. Read books. Ask others. Because you don’t trust yourself.
You stay stuck in your head.
You get it. You know where it comes from.
“Of course I’m perfectionistic!” “No wonder I doubt myself!”
You’ve read. Done therapy. Tried coaching.
And it helped. You understood yourself better.
But those patterns? They stayed.
That self-criticism? Still there. The perfectionism? Still there. The motivation that fades? Still there. The self-doubt? Still there.
Because understanding isn’t the same as changing.
You can explain exactly why you do what you do.
But you still do it.
Because those patterns aren’t in your head.
They’re in your body. In your nervous system. In your automatic reactions.
And you can’t get there with understanding.
You have to go through it.
And that’s exactly what the Tools® and The State Shift Method do.
More insight won’t solve it.
I work with the Tools® by Phil Stutz and Barry Michels in The State Shift Method – a system that helps people move through their patterns.
This isn’t therapy where you analyze everything. These aren’t conversations where you talk it out.
These are action-tools that break patterns.
It teaches your system:
Not by understanding it. By doing it.
The Tools® work because they bypass your brilliant mind that keeps you stuck in patterns.
They go straight to what works: through the fear. Through the resistance. Through the pattern.
Through movement. Through action. Through repetition.
And action → from your heart, repeated, daily → changes your system.
Your brain is stuck in old patterns.
“I have to be perfect.” “Failure proves I’m not good enough.” “I can’t trust myself.”
These are survival strategies that once worked.
But now? Now they’re in your way.
Talking helps. Understanding helps.
But it doesn’t break the pattern.
Because patterns aren’t in your head.
They’re in your body. In your nervous system.
The Tools® combined with The State Shift Method don’t go through your head. They go straight to your system.
Through movement. Through action. Through concrete steps.
This is how your system learns:
Not by understanding it. By experiencing it.
Over and over. Until your system learns it.
Here's what it comes down to
Not more insight.
But through it.
Through your perfectionism. Through your self-criticism. Through your fear of failure. Through your self-doubt.
Until your system learns:
This is who I really am and I’m more than okay with that, regardless of what others think.
And then everything changes.
Sylvia helped me confront fears, let go of what held me back, and take back control of my life. Her blend of The Tools® and lifestyle coaching made lasting change feel possible and gave me results I once thought were out of reach.
Sylvia delivers with clarity, energy and humor. Her warmth, deep listening, and gentle push help you see your progress and give you strength and courage to take your next steps. Truly inspiring and uplifiting.
An exeptional coach who creates a safe compassionate space to explore your shadow. With her gentle yet powerful guidance, I faced fears, built confidence, and learned to accept and love parts of myself I had been avoiding.
“Sylvia gave me the push I needed to actually change my life. I’m radiant again, have more confidence and inner peace.”
“I was feeling stuck, lost direction, and had a lack of confidence. Sylvia was giving me tools to use in any moment to help shift the vibe to positive action.”
“I struggled with doubt and perfectionism. Often felt like I wasn’t enough. By acknowledging my shadows, I now feel: I’m okay as I am. I’m more comfortable in my own skin and finally taking consistent action.”
I help people move through their patterns.
I was you years ago.
Hard-working. Perfectionistic. “If I just do it well enough, then I’ll be good enough.”
But inside?
That self-criticism. That doubt. That fear of failure.
I understood it. I knew where it came from.
But it didn’t change anything.
Until I discovered what I was missing.
It was about going through it.
I discovered the Tools® and developed the State Shift Method.
And you know what?
That self-criticism? It’s still there sometimes. That fear? It still shows up. That doubt? It still knocks.
But I go through it.
I look at my shadows. I connect with them. I love them. And through that, I love myself.
Not perfect. Not finished. Not “healed.”
But alive.
For 7 years now:
And I practice what I preach.
I do the work myself. I go through my own shit.
Because otherwise I can’t guide you through yours.
Going through it is living.
And I want that for you too.
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I’m Sylvia,
Nice to meet you!
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